“I’ll Be Better Off Without You “

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It was my son’s first day in grade school when I took a day off from work and accompanied him to show my support.

I had been a witness on that one day of his struggle to adjust to his new schedule – from waking up early to throwing up inside the school service due to motion sickness.

I felt pity for him. I even told myself that if and only if I can give him, in one single shot, all the things I learned in life up to this very moment, I would’ve done it right away.

After a couple of days though, he seemed to have fairly adjusted to his routine. He is tired but I see that he’s happy. And one early morning when we’re both dressed, me for work and he to school, he told me something that got me thinking:

“Dad, please don’t accompany me to school anymore.”

I was stunned thinking that he’s saying that he’ll be better off without me though I know that he didn’t mean to shut me off entirely. I am happy that he realizes the value of experiential learning at a very tender age. Atta boy!

It’s still kinda sad to hear though. But it’s that kind of sadness that I have to live with and be happy about anyway.

Independence Day Daddy Blues

“Mommy, mommy! Ibinili ako ni Daddy ng sunglasses, ang ganda wala akong makita!”

Face palm.

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Well deserved. Lebron’s one hell of a player and deserves no less credit. This championship is hard earned and that’s what makes this victory very sweet indeed! (AP Photo/Marcio Jose Sanchez) Photo taken from sports.abs-cbn.com

Mas madilim na sunglasses, mas ok para sa akin.

Yun ang tangi kong pamantayan sa pagpili ng proteksyon sa mata. Naapektuhan ng ilang taon nang pagtatrabaho sa harap ng computer ang mga mata ko kaya eto, nai-stress na masyado sa maliwanag.

Madalas madaling araw pa lang tuwing umaalis ako ng bahay at may kalaliman narin ng gabi ako nakakauwi kung kaya, kung tutuusin ay di ko na kailangan ng shades. Pero nitong mga huling araw ay nadadalas na akong masinagan ng araw pag-commute kung kaya na-excite akong magka sunglasses ulit.

Kaya nitong Lunes na holiday ay pumunta kami ng anak ko sa DIY upang bumili ng shades. “Yung pangwelding” ang deskripsyon ko sa sales lady. Nawili ako sa pagpili at hangang hanga ako sa kakayanan kong mamili ng shades. Balot na balot yung shades at di mo pwedeng buksan para isuot. Pero di na bale, alam ko ang pinipili ko. At dark nga yung nabili ko gaya ng gusto ko. I’m the man!

Nang makalabas na kami matapos kong bayaran yung shades ay agad ko itong kinuha para isuot.

Putik!

Wala akong makita kapag nasa lilim na yung tinitignan ko! Badtrip, pormatiks yung hitsura pero pangwelding ata talaga yung nakuha ko.

Habang nasa tricycle kami ng anak ko ay tuwang-tuwa siyang pinag-aagawan namin yung shades. Pero sobrang panghihinayang ko sa pinangbayad kong kulang-kulang dalawang daan.

Nang makatulog na ang panganay ko ay saka lang naikwinento sakin ni boss yung excitement ng anak niya nang makauwi kami. Tawa ng tawa si boss.

“Mommy, mommy! Ibinili ako ni Daddy ng sunglasses, ang ganda wala akong makita!”

Face palm.

Konswelo ko nalang na may natural humor yung bata, mana sa mommy nya…

Great Job Faye, Well Done!

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That was a kick-ass performance! Photo from punjabigraphics.com

Your hard work paid off, congratulations.

You deserve it.

It was never easy but you never shied away because you believed that it was worth your sweat and blood and now there is no doubt that it is indeed worth it all, even your painful efforts to go against your current self to become better.

You fell for many times, yet you stood to try again one more time every time your knees hit the ground.

You searched for that missing link and you did more than just to build a bridge to it – you also allowed yourself to heal.

You knew pain, you were not a stranger to sorrow. You almost called it quits, but you did not.

Because you told yourself over and over that you’d try again.

You said it was just a temporary setback designed to make you more resilient, stronger, wiser. And it was.

And when the opportunity came, you grabbed it like your very breathing at the moment depends on it.

And now the battle is won.

It was a bitter-sweet victory but you said it’s worth it – because you are worth it.

Congratulations.

You succeeded. You won. You emerged victorious.

Stand straight and wear your newfound crown with pride because it’s yours.

Own it.

(This is dedicated to my sister-in-law who is now a duly licensed civil engineer.)

“You cannot get rid of me. I will come back and I will marry you” – French President Emmanuel Macron

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I already said these words sometime ago I just cant remember the exact moment when but I did.

Well, I would like to my congratulate the newly elected French President Emmanuel Macron and extend a hand to welcome him to the club of us men marrying graceful, elegant, strong and intelligent women (each of his own, just to be clear!) past our age brackets.

(By the way, if you want to get a glimpse of my woman, you can just imagine Cate Blanchett as Maid Marion. Yep, that’s her alright!)

I can’t fully explain why but I can totally relate to him and his love life: Age is nothing but just digits. When you look past the physical and connect with her through the emotion, mind, and soul, the physical will be totally irrelevant both of you wont need any faces at all. You both become connected with love, something that age can never corrupt unlike the physical body.

When you touch down and hold hands with her, it’s like reconnecting with yourself in love – creating a formless and timeless yet magical moment that you would treasure for a lifetime.

Welcome to the club (or maybe you would’ve welcomed me first) mon ami. And if I may, let me borrow some of your words for they perfectly resonate well with me (and my lovely lady):

“Without her, I wouldn’t be me”

“Whatever you do, I will marry you”

Parbangon

(Sagut ko ken tay biag toy biag ko)

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Arig mo tay linnaaw ti bigbigat

Nalamiis nga pul-oy a mangag-agep toy rupak

Palayupoy mo a bang-ar barukung ku

Ken liwliwa ditoy riknak ken pusok

 

Sika ti inana ti kararwak

Ti naimas a samiweng ditoy lapayag

Sika ti inaldaw a sagut kanyak ti Dios Apo a namarsua

Baro a biag ken naimbag a namnama

 

 

 

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Better Than Me

As parents, let us not aim to see a mirrored reflection of ourselves in our children. Rather, let us aim to see in them a better version of ourselves.
– Angmamangenhinyero

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B.S. Practical Engineering

Ako ang inhinyero sa bahay pero minsan e mas malupit si misis kesa sakin pagdating sa practical engineering.

Dahil summer ay bumili kami ng inflatable pool para sa mga chikiting. May isa’t kalahating metro din yung sukat nung pool at may taas na aabot sa kalahating metro . ‘Di sumagi sa isip ko na bumili ng compressor o yung pampahangin dahil inisip kong kaya ko namang bombahan yung pool gamit ang manual pump na pambisikleta.

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Pambata lang yung kinuha namin… Mula ang larawan sa cn-airmattress.com

Nang makauwi kami ay sinubukan kong bombahan yung inflatable pool.

Syete.

Mauubusan nako ng hangin sa baga at matotodas kakabomba ay siguradong di pa ako mangangalahati.

“Punta nalang tayo sa vulcanizing shop bukas ng maaga,” kako kay kumander.

Sa loob-loob ko ay di ako sang-ayon sa sinabi ko dahil napaka-hassle bitbitin yung pool na halos singtangkad ko kapag nakatagilid lalo na kung sasabayan pa ako ng walang kurapang mga titig ng mga naglalakihang mga mata ng aking mga minamahal na kapitbahay.

“Pero sana may mahihiraman nalang ng compressor kahit yung maliit lang,” kako ulit.

“Pwede siguro yung nebulizer” sabi ni boss.

Nagka lightbulb. Yun nga lang, di ako yung nagbukas ng ilaw.

“Oo nga ano!” nasabi ko nalang na may halong inis sa sarili ko. Ang simple lang dapat nun pero bakit di ko kaagad naisip yun?!

At ganun na nga ang nangyari. Naglalabas nga naman ng hangin yung nebulizer kaya nagamit namin ito para ma-inflate yung pool.

Malaki ang utang na loob ko sa nebulizer na yon dahil buhay parin ako hanggang ngayon at nagkukwento tungkol sa practical sense ni boss at sa nadiskubre naming di lang para sa taong may hika ang nebulizer.

Oo na, sige na nga. Sa pagkakataong iyon ay panalo si kumander samantalang bumagsak naman ang Bataan. Pero di bale na, ayos lang. Mas mabuti na yung inflatable pool ang gumamit ng nebulizer at hindi yung aking mga mini me na tulad kong pogi.

Kikit Kikit

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“Iggamam ta kikit nakkong…” Ang larawang ito ay mula sa imgarcade.com

Anlaki ng prinoblema ng asawa ko: “Dad alam mo ba yung kikit? I-download mo nga at kinukulit ako ng anak mo.”

Sa totoo lang ay prinoblema ko rin ito.

Una, dahil ang naisip kong kikit ay yung Ilocano ng “hinliliit”. Pero dahil hindi naman nada-download ang hinliliit ay naisip kong kanta yung pinapadownload ng anak ko. Pangalawa, ay sa kadahilanang di ko pa naririnig ang kanta. Mas madali sanang maghanap ng kanta kung maski man lang yung tugtog at katiting na lyrics e alam ko.

Nung magtype ako sa search bar ng YouTube ay tinype ko yung “kick it” sa pagbabakasakaling may kanta ngang may titulong ganun. Nung may nakita ako ay tinawag ko ang panganay ko at tinanong kung yun nga yung pinapadownload nya.

Walanjo, tumama ako! Kaya pala di ko alam yung Sidekick ni Dawin dahil hindi yun kasali sa genre ko ng heavy metal at alternative. Pero ayos narin dahil tuwang-tuwa naman yung anak ko at sa wakas ay makakapagsayaw na sya sa saliw ng tugtog sa tv at hindi nalang sa isip nya.

Pano kaya kung isa-Tagalog tong kantang to? ‘Matic na may umilaw na bumbilya sa utak ko at napangiti ako ng ngiting animo’y may binabalak na masama:

“♫ SIPAIN MO! ♪ SIPAIN MO! ♫”

When Something “Green” Gives A Healthy, Hearty Laughin’

And, of all people you can laugh out loud with, isn’t it cool that you’re doing it with your special someone?

I’ve been sitting on this hilarious “green” song in my local dialect that never fails to put a grin on my face irrespective of when or where I am. And due to its green nature and that the terms require a considerable degree of fluency to fully comprehend it in full context, I cannot just share it to anyone and so I was condemned to laugh alone for a while.

One weekend while both me and my wife are doing the laundry, I remembered the song again. But this time, instead of keeping it to myself, I sang that hilarious part of the lyrics out loud followed by a hearty laugh until it brought me to tears.

♪ ♫ Nakamagmaga,
Natikagan sa ♫ ♪

My wife let out a belly laugh followed by a silent one as she hit me twice with her towel while her knees totally lost control as she squatted on the ground.

While our shoulders were still shaking, I felt relieved that I finally found someone to share with the hilarious song and laugh with much gusto.

“Thank you,” I told her in the middle of my chuckles “thank you for laughing out loud with me!”

What I’ve learned in that moment is, given the right timing, a green joke minus the sexual innuendos and overtones expressing repressed urges can give a clean humor that can make you laugh with your significant other. And, of all people you can laugh out loud with, isn’t it cool that you’re doing it with your special someone?

And in our case, a good hearty laugh is always equivalent to a good quality time with each other.

And that, is not a joke my friend 🙂

I Love You For All the Moments In Between

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I love you in silence…

Not just when things are merry
Not just when the situation elicits chuckles
Not just when you’re euphoric

I love you in silence…

Not just when you’re in pain
Not just when discouragement sets in
Not just when you’re confused and afraid

I love you
For all those moments in between
For all the mundane
For all the ordinary moments:

  • When there’s neither joy nor pain
  • When there’s neither sunshine nor rain

I love you in silence
When words become superfluous
I love you in silence –
When both our hearts freely speak.